A Client’s Story as delivered at Off the Wall, October 8, 2022

 My parents were both addicts.  My dad used cocaine and my mother used weed. I started using cocaine, weed, and liquor at 15.  I was prescribed pain pills for cramps – the opioids that we hear so much about.  I became addicted and eventually began using heroin.

 I became involved in an abusive relationship, had my son, and eventually went to prison for nine months on assault charges.  Except for the time in prison, I always had my son with me.

 Once I was released from prison, I was not ready to be clean. Eventually my abusive partner went to prison. I was about to lose my left arm to infection and at 31 years old I had been high nearly half of my life.  I was tired of that life and wanted to change. I found my way to Sheffield Place with my 9 year old son.  I would like to be able to say that I loved it from the start, but that wouldn’t be true.  So many times, I wanted to walk out.  I was a mess for the first 9 months.  I went cold turkey off of all drugs and narcotic medications.

All along the way, the staff cared about my success.  My case manager, Regina, rode me hard because she knew I could succeed.  And I did. I stayed at Sheffield Place for 11 months and then moved into a Sheffield Place house where my son and I have lived for 2 years. 

I am proud of my successes.  I’m off parole.  I’ve had my job for two years.  I’m three-fifths of the way to obtaining my GED, and my son is involved with school activities.  I have learned that I can take care of myself, make my own decisions, and pay my own bills.  I’m taking steps to buy my own home including improving my credit score.  

But it hasn’t been easy.  I’ve had to process my feelings of guilt for what I put my son through.  I thought I was only hurting myself, but I realize I was hurting him too.  At Sheffield Place he opened up and told me that he was always scared that he would find me dead.

I am still trying to find my way and probably always will be.  When you are trying to create a life for yourself and your son – one of safety and stability – it’s hard when you’ve never seen what that looks like.

I took a wrong turn this summer and relapsed for six weeks.  I could blame it on a bad relationship or on a death in my family, but I have to accept responsibility.  I had stopped taking my mental health meds. I isolated myself. I felt lonely.  I put my job and my family’s security at risk. 

At one point during my relapse, I was in a drug house.  I remember sitting there high with other people who were also struggling. They were high, in pain, and had lost their children to the state. I remember looking around and thinking to myself what am I doing here? I deserved better than this. I had never thought like that before, not in this situation. That I deserved better. 

I reached out to my counselors at Sheffield Place to let them know what happened. I knew that I had to be honest in my recovery.  I didn’t want to get away with using.  That would only leave the door open for me to consider getting away with it again – another path to another relapse.  That’s how an addict’s mind works.

Since then, I have worked on building my support system. I realized my coworkers, that have been in my life for the last two years, are huge supports. I have gone back to NA meetings and am finding a church. I have dreams for my future and my son’s future that include finishing my GED, going to community college, becoming a cosmetologist, and opening my own business.

Thank you for listening and for supporting the work of Sheffield Place.  It saved my life.      

 

 

Board Member Chris Bradley Reflects on the Opportunity to Serve

I am pretty fortunate to have gotten to know some very good people that introduced me to Sheffield Place a couple of years ago which turned into an opportunity to serve on the board.  Being relatively new I gravitated towards an area of comfort and am on the Facilities Committee.  Working in the construction industry allows me to offer my best talents.  I’ve seen such tremendous growth in the living spaces with the remodel of the main facility on 12^th Street, renovation of single-family residences and the new complex on Newton Ave.  And now there is potential for even further expansion across the street.  It’s been, and will continue to be, an exciting time and a great opportunity to serve.

Obviously all this is done for the real purpose of Sheffield Place and that is to give the women and families an opportunity to get back on their own.  This is such a unique opportunity because of the openness with which they can start and still allow them to have family members with them.  I remember the first time I visited and went in the basement and saw all the little kids and how so many of them were immediately accepting.  To know that they could be able to stay with their mom was such a great feeling.  These women are already going through so much I can’t imagine how much more difficult it would be not having your children with you or having limited ability to interact with them. 

I am truly thankful my family and my Excel Constructors family can be a part of such a great organization.  Hats off to a tremendously talented and hardworking staff.  We all know not everyone that enters the program is successful but just think about how much better the world is for those that are!

 

 

Board Member Kenny Yeung Describes His Involvement with Sheffield Place

I was first introduced to Sheffield Place by a friend who was on the Board at the time. I attended a luncheon, house tours, and fundraisers (golf tournament and Off The Wall), which provided me opportunities to witness the impact of Sheffield Place.  

Each event had testimonies from clients of Sheffield and all their stories had a common thread: They were stories of resilience, redemption and new beginnings! Sheffield Place provided these ladies and their families a space – both literally and figuratively – to reflect, heal, and holistically support their desire to turnaround their lives, and consequently, that of their children/families. My personal life, though not as traumatic as these ladies, is a story of redemption.  We all have a redemptive story to varying degrees, so I was sold – and who wouldn’t be?! 

I decided to join Sheffield and support its mission both with my talents and finances.  Each time I have had the opportunity to attend events (or even Board meetings), it reinforces why I joined three-plus years ago: (1) it’s an opportunity to serve and give-back out of personal gratitude, (2) impact and love on my “neighbors” and share in their sorrows, joys and success; and (3) set an example for my children and open our eyes to our neighbors’ struggles while instilling the values of service and giving back to the community. Well, selfish as it sounds, I get way more out of Sheffield Place than what I’ve put in!

I invite you to come and check out Sheffield Place like I did – but, I’ll warn you: You’ll get attached and want to get involved!  

 Join us…and an early “welcome” to Sheffield Place!